Not Feeling My" Usual" Blog

It's been awhile, and I know this because my husband has been reminding me...you know that's bad!  I haven't been sewing much since I have most of my stuff packed up, getting ready for the move.  So, here's what's going on around here; we are getting ready to put our house on the market, since my husband is retiring later this year.  In the meantime, we are looking for a place to live temporarily in Missouri to live while we are building our new house.  We have yet to find a builder, or agree on a plan, so temporarily might not be so temporary.  However, I'm not too worried about those things.  What has been keeping me worried is my dad.

 About 4 weeks ago now, my dad's house caught on fire.  Since his stroke last August, it seems as if his health is continuing to fail.  This is sad for any person to see, it breaks my heart.  After being away for nearly 25 years in the military, I now feel like I should be there taking care of him and his personal affairs, but since he no longer has a home in which I can stay in, that's not possible.  He is currently staying with his sister until we can figure all of this out.

 So, how do you know when a parent can no longer care for themselves, or stay by themselves?  Please tell me!  I mean, certainly there are signs, like burning the house down, but really, how do you know if they can no longer care for themselves?  There are no books that guide us through this process, and no one wants to admit they can no longer care for themselves, and let's face it, I'll never say, "take me to the nursing home, that's where I want to live."

 I know that those of us lucky enough to still have our parents will have to deal with them aging, and while I'm glad that he's still on the earth, it's painful to see.  It's especially hard because he is alone...and while I know that's not my fault, it's still hard.  I feel like as it's a parent's responsibility to care for their children, grown children also have a responsibility to care for their aging parents, or at a minimum to help make sure they're taken care of.  Yes, like having a baby, it is time consuming, and there are a million things you'd rather be doing, but you do it because it's your responsibility.  You don't agree?  Maybe the following will help explain:

1 Timothy 5:8

New International Version (NIV)
8 Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

 While it would be easy to count the times that my dad wasn't there for me, he's still my dad, and without him, I would not be here today.  Count your blessings and know that one day, hopefully, you'll be an aging parent.  I hope your children bring your grandchildren to see you, to share a meal with you or to just make sure that you're doing okay and being taken care of.  Each of us came from two parents, like it or not.

 I'm a worrier, some people just are, I know that I can't control everything, I don't like it, but I know it.  

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